Communication is king.
That’s it, that’s all I have to say, whole thing in a nutshell…
Well, maybe I have a little more:
Communication, whether via words, deeds, or thoughts, whether to ourselves or to others, defines who we are. I touched on this in my last post, Speaking of Death, but would like to expand on it here.
- If I communicate to myself, in my thoughts, that the world and the people on it, are crappy, then that defines who I am. I will live my life that way, and the world and the people on it will respond to me crappily.
- If my words are insincere, my relationships will be insincere. Case in point, when one person asks another, “How are you?”, the answer is inevitably something flippant, like, “Fine.” What the heck is that? Not a conversation at all. If you don’t want to share what is actually going on in your life, then say so – nicely, of course. If you don’t truly want to know what’s going on in someone’s life, then don’t ask. This interaction, carried out multiple times by each of us every day, defines us – let’s try to make it authentic and thereby steer the definition of ourselves towards authenticity.
- Faulty communication leads to so many misunderstandings and arguments. I was married to a man with whom I could just never get it right. I’d say, “The sky is blue” and he’d hear, “The sky is red.” He’d go outside, look up, see that the sky was, in fact, blue, and get angry with me for misleading him. He wouldn’t tell me he was angry because in his mind I already knew that I misled him, as I told him the sky was red. I wouldn’t be able to figure out why he was acting cold towards me because in my head I told him the sky was blue, and therefore would have no clue that the whole sky thing was even an issue. This scene played out over and over again during the course of our ten-year marriage; not my finest hours. I am happy to say that I have consciously worked on being more clear in my choice of words, working on aligning the definition of myself with “good communicator.”
- Here’s another communication arena wherein we limit ourselves – emotions. When most people consider their emotions, either via self-reflection, or because someone – hopefully sincerely! – asked, “How are you?”, they come up with one of a limited list: happy, sad, angry, fine, excited, disappointed, jealous, unwell, for example. While human beings have the capacity to experience literally hundreds of different emotions, we don’t because we don’t even look, we don’t explore. Sitting in the court room waiting for my divorce to be finalized, I experienced an emotion unfamiliar to me. I sat there, exploring, until I figured out that I was giddy. I didn’t remember ever being giddy before, but using that word, communicating that word to myself, expanded my definition of myself.
- Prayer is communication with God. For myself, I prefer using the prayers revealed by the ascended masters rather than my own, as those words are so much more powerful, in my opinion. It feels to me that, using those words raises my vibration, raises my worship. I’m not saying using one’s words isn’t heard, by the way!
This blog is about exploring the multiple avenues open to us as we work on our own healing and I hope you will consider building your awareness of how you communicate and see what happens!